For nine months a set of parents from Van Meter, Iowa watched their son battle a rare form of pediatric cancer. Last week, 5-year-old Garrett Matthias died.
Once doctors told the family Garrett’s cancer was terminal, they knew they could not put off learning of how their son wanted to be remembered.
“We never necessarily talked about his funeral, so we never had the conversation with him that he was going to die, but we had a lot of conversations around, ‘when I die I want to do this,'” Garrett’s mom Emilie says.
The 5-year-old boy was a fan of all superheros and a lover of thrash metal music. He was a special kid and his obituary was a reflection of that. In the weeks and months leading up to his final breaths, parents Ryan and Emilie, carefully asked questions to learn how Garrett wanted to be remembered and celebrated.
The obituary starts by the boy introducing himself as “Garrett Michael Boofias,” his name too difficult for him to pronounce. He later names who his favorite people are including the “grandparents who live in the new house”, the “grandparents that live in the camper” and his stinky Uncle Andy.
“That`s him speaking. Those are his words verbatim,” Ryan smiles. “When I read it, I’m just like ‘wow,’ Sounds like Garrett just yapping at me.”
His obituary detailed all the things he loved, and the things he wasn’t fond of. However, in his final words the preschooler made some final requests, asking there not be a funeral because “those are sad.”